Is Sex important or no?

Some people say Sex isn’t as important as the other things in a relationship and I agree…BUT it’s almost like saying personality is more important than looks; it sounds good…it’s the right thing to say but it’s not what actions imply.

Most of the time people have sex before they get a true sense of what a person’s personality is like (Hell sometimes before they know a person’s last name…) BUT
You have to try ‘em out first before you make any commitments…you don’t want to be stuck with someone that can’t do the...well...' do'

Yep

You don’t want to wait too long before you get naked, what if you’re sheet compatibility is off?

What if they like to pull hair?

What if they don’t ?

What if they hate to get on top?
What if they don’t know what to do once they’re up there?

What if they smack ass too hard?

Or not at all
What if the Oral skills are Torrific (Horrific and Terrible)
…but you’re digging everything else…you don’t wanna be stuck with bad stickin do you?

If you find someone that gives you everything you need but the ass is trash can you stay with them?
Of course you can say ‘well we’ll work on it…together we can improve on that part, the other things you can’t fix’ true, but what if no matter what you do…what you try...somehow the stroke is just ‘off’ …the positions just never get ‘right’?

Do you cheat?

Do you get out of the relationship?

Do you get a bunch of toys and/or a strong hand? lol

Eventually would you resent the person that’s NOT doing their thang to your thang? LoL
Or is sex not that important?

Maybe it’s not…maybe it’s not that big of a deal
If it’s NOT important, then should you care if your significant other sexes someone else if that’s all it is (because you suck at it)?
Or if it’s not that important, then is it acceptable to never have it? You know it’s going to be trash so why bother? …but wouldn’t you eventually miss it?

Does size matter?
What if the guy is the greatest boyfriend ever but he’s hung like Poodle Puppy? :(

Do men really want a virgin?
You don’t want every session to be a lesson…then you gotta worry about them wondering what other men are like, since they’ve only been with you. :/

…BUT you don’t want to settle down with a Super Hoe either LOL!

Personally I don’t think I could ever be with someone who had a ‘no sex till marriage’ type of mentality…that’s a no go
(For me, for others it may work and hey, do you …or rather don’t…no I guess if you’re waiting you have no choice lol)

...some people want to abstain becuase of past issues/past relationships...been used...haven't had any good scootage...or just simply don't like it...I say "Bah - phooey"

...others have 'rules' they don't have sex until THIS date...or they wait until whenever...or a no sex on the first date policy...BAH...do what you feel, do what feels good...be grown. Waiting till a certain time or a # of dates to do what you already want to does nothing but cheat yourself

(uness the man/woman are total assholes or jerks and make that obvious before you get naked...you saved yourself from a 'wtf did I do that for?' moment...but that's life)

I dunno…I love sex, it feels great! Only 2 things could be better?

Football and Shopping :)

For me, it’s more important that I find the person I’m with 'sexy', over how good they are in the act; because if I find them sexy…it wouldn’t take much...sexy skin, legs, arms....mmmmm

Damn.

You know how people that you would consider “unattractive” that’s still sexy somehow?
(Serena, Shawnna, Adele Givens, Toni on Girlfriends *Though I find her outstanding*)

ANYWAY back to the topic…

Is sex that important?

How important?
Do you have rules?

Superfakicial

Open Minded…Superficial…Fake…

Who’s more? Men or women?

Everyone has their own preferences. A lot of us would like to have others think that we care more about a persons ‘person’ more so than their appearance, but more times than not it’s untrue.

Now I did a whole blog post on how Myspace leads people to be a tad superficial meaning you may only stop on someones page because of their face/picture
(THAT’S why I had put my picture is only in the gallery…aint nobody stopping to see my ass lmao)
…anyway, bottom line some people, better; most people are on that bullshit

Who’s more Superfical? Men or Women? Who’s more Open Minded? Who’s a big Fakey Fakerton?

This is what I know:

A Young man could go to Burger King, and see the most beautiful woman working there, completely decked out in her polyester finest…maybe some fry grease stains on her pants…she may even have the paper crown on, and he’d try to get her number…try and give her his…SOMETHING. He’s taken by her beauty. (Or ass or some derivative)
A young woman could go into Burger King and see a guy that she thinks is sexy as hell working behind the counter…no, he could be in shirt and tie with the manager tag on, if he tried to spit ANY type of game, he’d get shut down like trying to open a GoGo in Brooklyn.

…with the quickness!

Now, is the guy that tried to talk to the woman that worked at Burger King Superficial because he was attracted to her physically and knows nothing about her?
or…

Would that make the guy open minded because he didn’t care about where the woman worked?
What about the woman that shut down the Manager? Is she Closed minded because she wouldn’t give dude a chance because he worked at the King?
Is she superficial to think he can’t offer her anything because of his job?

How important is personality?

What’s the good ratio? From 100% Looks to Personality?
In most cases 50-50 is a good balance, but will anyone go for that?

Iiiiiiii Think

Women would say 50-50 or maybe 60-40 but their actions are 75-25
Men would say 80-20 when their boys are around but ask him later he’d probably say 60-40 or 50-50

Why?

Iiiiiiii say this:

Women (not all, but some) would say “I like a gangster ass ni66a, I want a thug…he gotta be blah” so the personality that most would SAY they want doesn’t factor in a lot
This thug don’t have a career, his own place, benefits, romantic, etc…he’s a BET baby
(And NOT of the Donnie Simpson Angela Stribbling mold either)
So as long as he’s sexy he get’s the play

What about men? They like the ass, and breasts, and chicks with full lips (hi :) )

True.

BUT!

Never do you hear a man SAY they WANT to be with a chicken head…they’ll TREAT a woman like a chicken head (Dunno why you let ‘em)
Never do you hear them say they WANT to be with some loud ass ghetto ass chick
You may hear them say they want a ‘Ride or die chick’
But what is that really?

A chick that’s down for him through whatever?
A chick that rolls with him and understands him?

…hey maybe even transport his drugs and would bust a gun for him
(Even sounded dumb typing it)
BUT
Aren’t those more or less personality traits over how sexy she is?
You hear women say: “Why is he with her? She ugly” “Look at her face” “It’s only cuz she has a big ass” (Hi Buffie)

Probably.

The thing is; men can pick out a part on a woman that he likes true; and it may never be the face, no. But when she treats him right…don’t give him the extra drama, this that and the third he rolls with her.
Personality….over looks…maybe not by much, but over looks nonetheless

I think.

Who’s more of a hypocrite? Men or Women?
Men? What are they hypocritical about?
They’ll say they like a woman because of her ass or breasts…and will admit to being that kind of ‘man’
They’ll say that they only want to smash in some cases…crass but honest.
I honestly don’t know what about men are hypocritical I ask the female readers for those answers…cuz I know we men are …and I know you women will let me know.
I’d almost say I could be…I say I value personality and this and that, then type ‘hips like Serena, ass like Mya’ LOL

BUT

Let the records show that I have way more blog posts describing a woman’s personality and actions than their looks.

Women? I dunno,

I may need a whole ‘nother post of this…I gotta get back to work.

..as always up for discussion on the MESSAGEBOARD