Some people say Sex isn’t as important as the other things in a relationship and I agree…BUT it’s almost like saying personality is more important than looks; it sounds good…it’s the right thing to say but it’s not what actions imply.
Most of the time people have sex before they get a true sense of what a person’s personality is like (Hell sometimes before they know a person’s last name…) BUT
You have to try ‘em out first before you make any commitments…you don’t want to be stuck with someone that can’t do the...well...' do'
Yep
You don’t want to wait too long before you get naked, what if you’re sheet compatibility is off?
What if they like to pull hair?
What if they don’t ?
What if they hate to get on top?
What if they don’t know what to do once they’re up there?
What if they smack ass too hard?
Or not at all
What if the Oral skills are Torrific (Horrific and Terrible)
…but you’re digging everything else…you don’t wanna be stuck with bad stickin do you?
If you find someone that gives you everything you need but the ass is trash can you stay with them?
Of course you can say ‘well we’ll work on it…together we can improve on that part, the other things you can’t fix’ true, but what if no matter what you do…what you try...somehow the stroke is just ‘off’ …the positions just never get ‘right’?
Do you cheat?
Do you get out of the relationship?
Do you get a bunch of toys and/or a strong hand? lol
Eventually would you resent the person that’s NOT doing their thang to your thang? LoL
Or is sex not that important?
Maybe it’s not…maybe it’s not that big of a deal
If it’s NOT important, then should you care if your significant other sexes someone else if that’s all it is (because you suck at it)?
Or if it’s not that important, then is it acceptable to never have it? You know it’s going to be trash so why bother? …but wouldn’t you eventually miss it?
Does size matter?
What if the guy is the greatest boyfriend ever but he’s hung like Poodle Puppy? :(
Do men really want a virgin?
You don’t want every session to be a lesson…then you gotta worry about them wondering what other men are like, since they’ve only been with you. :/
…BUT you don’t want to settle down with a Super Hoe either LOL!
Personally I don’t think I could ever be with someone who had a ‘no sex till marriage’ type of mentality…that’s a no go
(For me, for others it may work and hey, do you …or rather don’t…no I guess if you’re waiting you have no choice lol)
...some people want to abstain becuase of past issues/past relationships...been used...haven't had any good scootage...or just simply don't like it...I say "Bah - phooey"
...others have 'rules' they don't have sex until THIS date...or they wait until whenever...or a no sex on the first date policy...BAH...do what you feel, do what feels good...be grown. Waiting till a certain time or a # of dates to do what you already want to does nothing but cheat yourself
(uness the man/woman are total assholes or jerks and make that obvious before you get naked...you saved yourself from a 'wtf did I do that for?' moment...but that's life)
I dunno…I love sex, it feels great! Only 2 things could be better?
Football and Shopping :)
For me, it’s more important that I find the person I’m with 'sexy', over how good they are in the act; because if I find them sexy…it wouldn’t take much...sexy skin, legs, arms....mmmmm
Damn.
You know how people that you would consider “unattractive” that’s still sexy somehow?
(Serena, Shawnna, Adele Givens, Toni on Girlfriends *Though I find her outstanding*)
ANYWAY back to the topic…
Is sex that important?
How important?
Do you have rules?
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11 comments:
first ill claim these socks
secondly to me sex is so important in a relationship
I know for others its not the same but I think you need to have sex in the relationship, it’s a form of bonding which is just so so hmmmmm enjoyable!!
I would hate to marry someone who I hadnt been with only to find out that sexually it doesn’t work. There is only so much training you can give someone.
I vote sex!
I use to be the "wait until marriage" type until I did and had all types of issues.
Now, after a defunct marriage I don't believe in bed hopping just for fun. I believe in relationships and building foundations if that is someone you want to be with.
Sex shouldn't come before you know someone's last name, but after you get to know them and the chemistry is there and you are both willing and responsible...why not?
It's important, but if a dude really wants to turn me on...gainful employment and being able to put a sentence together keeps me interested.
FFGUUUCCKK Thatr Sex Is ABSOLUTELY important so important that it's either glue in an ok relationship or the fucking thorn at the side
Sex period is a beautiful fun, sexy, delicious stress relief, in a relationship it serves a slightly different function than out of it
me personally? No rules, when I feel like it and how i feel like it, no set time on the "dating period" or whatever... I Mean I'm grown, I never don't have condoms, I take the pill, I don't ascribe to macho/paternalistic societies "guilt/shame/fear/Madonna/whore complexes or what have you soooo my bases are pretty covered in that sense LOL , I really don't have sex issues as much as I have commitment/relationship bullshit, however the fact I've decided to stay single won't even fire the message to my brain and neurons about celibacy "blah blah blah" I want it, need it, helps me function better, clears my skin and all that good stuff
...but is sex is bad 4 things are going to happen:
1- I WILL be subtle and tell you "Oh Baby this is how I'd like to be touched/done, the way I'm servicing you"
2- I will lose my patience and while STILL being gentle I will tell you during lunch that I need as follows: consistency, foreplay (and I will go into rich detail) and pretty high levels of dominance
3- I'm going to be passive aggressive and not tell you but bring a vibe, a whip, lube, movies, anal vibe and cockrings and proceed... possibly bamboozle you into light s&m play
4- I'm going to be frustrated and leave, unless is like a GREAT relationship in which case I'm going to have to watch porn/ masturbate all on my own time
I Love you guys....And I agree with all of you
Sex is the greatest and when you're grown...you do it when you feel it
I mean be smart but...why punish yourself?
WHY arent you guys on the other blog as well!?!?!?
I'd love your opinions
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Interesting. I believe sex in a "relationship" is as important as you make it,cause there has to be more to a great relationship than just great sex. I am
celibate, not b/c I have past issues, or I don't like 'it', but b/c of my religous beliefs. So I do disagree with you about "cheating yourself" if someone chooses to abstain for whateva reason. Personally, I don't want sex outside of marriage to be my downfall, when I have all ready been warned... feel me? I do believe sex within a marriage is very very important, without sex, the marriage won't last, keyword marriage. Great post topic!
great post!
sex is important, no matter how hard we try to downplay it. i was with a guy for 3 years that was horrible in the sack. i tried to make it work because everything else was near perfect in the relationship, but that passion wasn't there and he wasn't good at taking instruction. i realized i need someone that can satisfy me on all levels, including physical stimulation.
"What if the guy is the greatest boyfriend ever but he’s hung like Poodle Puppy?" LMAO!!! I'm gonna use that one.
Sex is Important and it should be when thinking about a life partner. But there are so many other factors that no matter how good the sex if the other things don't fall in place the sex is not even a factor. LOL.
I agree w/ Curvy Girl.
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